A Four Part Goodbye

I'm not sure how I want to start this.
But maybe saying just that is the best way to begin.

As most of you Curbside Fashion readers may know, I've been making Youtube videos about thrifted fashion for a few years now on my self-titled channel: Lauren Rose (JustACurbsideProphet). During the school year, I had a Wake Magazine interview that alluded to the following words I'm about to express. As grateful as I am for everyone who has encouraged me, upon recently hitting 50,000+ subscribers I've become overwhelmed with guilt and weariness about my future on the internet. I knew this post was a long time coming, but recently I've decided to finally put things to rest.

I
Thin, rich, pretty

II
The allure of recognition

III
The Mac DeMarco epiphany

IV
The perceivable end to my Youtube videos

I

I wanted to be thin, rich and pretty. Simple as that. 

When people ask me why I started Youtube I usually twist that answer, replying how I wanted to share my 'passion for fashion' instead of saying the honest truth. I was so young when I started posting videos on Youtube, I was naive.  

Of course, I have to preface this by saying that this is not a rant about Youtube culture. This is me explaining my experience growing up on the internet wanting some kind of fame, and relatively achieving it - and how it has changed who I am (for better and worse). When I stumbled upon the Beauty Community, I was not in the best place in my life. My circumstances were pretty rough, on top of puberty, and I wanted to find a way to escape. I saw these beautiful girls who could afford everything I couldn't, who had seamless Ikea rooms and expensive/excessive amounts of makeup. I yearned to be one of them, or at least yearned to live through them. I was actually ready to throw in the towel shortly after starting my first makeup and beauty themed videos. I realized that I could never be one of those girls. Not only was it financially impossible to copy them- I also couldn't morph my face and body to satisfy my fucked up standards of beauty I'd created. 

Shortly after, Jenn and Sarah from ClothesEncounters entered and redefined the Beauty Community scene - proving that you could shop humbly and still have a killer sense of style. Jenn and Sarah were stunningly fresh and witty - yet also extremely relatable. Their hipster style was just entering the mainstream market and they were simply magnetic together. If it weren't for Jenn and Sarah, I would have stopped making my content all together. To this day, I owe my rise in confidence to both young women and I will always support their endeavors (hey Jenn!). As I started modeling my video content after theirs, I found a new high in video making and it was life changing. I felt like a rebel, posting videos sharing my thrifted clothing finds (remember when thrifting wasn't cool?), dawning ripped tights and terribly cut shirts.  When I started being sent clothing for free by companies, I couldn't believe my luck. To this day I have $200 dollar shoes sitting in my closet that I hardly wear that were gifted to me. Suddenly I started to get more views and followers, although I never could quite amount to my predecessors.  I guess that is where things started to go wrong. 

You see, Youtube can make you feel incredibly useful and important, and it can also make you feel like dog shit. As my view counts flattened out, my confidence issues came back. Sometimes I'd film an entire video and never upload it because I thought I looked terrible in a certain take. My fashion lookbook videos, which were by far my most popular and requested, made me cringe while filming them. I never got to the production level that I desired, and didn't want to push myself to attain it either. Of course there were highs and lows. My Lauren Gets Deep videos were always genuine, and my thrifted finds did indeed bring me joy. But something about putting myself out onto the internet constantly was wearing away at me.

 I slowly began to realize that I preferred to be behind the camera, and that I needed to sort out my own issues before I put myself through the affliction of filming. I felt like a fraud talking about body positivity when I couldn't even stand to watch some of my older videos, or even film newer ones. The money generated from my videos was realistically a nice benefit, but slowly I realized that the only means to my income were coming from the views of my face, my clothes, and my body. I started to feel trapped and desperate.  I'd been receiving such love and respect from new and old followers, but I knew that in my heart making videos did not make me happy.

(Tavi Gevinson by Petra Collins)

II

The allure of fame is something that most well known people don't talk about, understandably. I mean, we all ditched our "I want to be famous!" dreams when we were 10 years old, at least, we stopped saying it out loud. I think about that a lot. 

Even when I stopped vibing with my own Youtube videos, I kept them up in hopes that they would lead me to some glorious opportunity. One summer I discovered Tavi Gevinson (founder of Rookie Magazine) and Petra Collins during one of my Youtube lulls, and I was astounded by the similarities in taste that Tavi and I had. We both shared a transcendent love for The Virgin Suicides and her writing pinpointed my feelings in an eerily similar way. She would do these photo shoots that I completely fell in love with, but would never have the confidence to do myself. I understood her aesthetic so well, I was ecstatic upon discovering her. But something hollow started to seep in. 

Tavi seemed to have a certain freedom that I longed for myself. She could express her love for things in ways that I only dreamed of. The Rookie Mag collaboration was the kind of outlet that I had been looking for my whole life. I had come close to expressing the vibes we shared in my videos, but I didn't ever do it as she did, it seemed.  Tavi had this weird spunky ambition that I lost a very long time ago. While I was busy trying to become notable by making videos that I didn't quite believe in, Tavi was out there doing exactly what she envisioned. And instead of inspiring me, it messed me up. This whole time I was chasing this idea of fame (recognition/respect) and I got it - but not for what I wanted. I was stressed, insecure, and unsure.

Even though Tavi's success crumpled my own at the time, I am glad it happened that way. Discovering Tavi's youthful passion and realizing how much I missed out on my own adolescence forced me to reevaluate what was important in my life. I slowly started making less Youtube videos and started focusing on activism, film, and live VJ-ing. My original passions resurfaced, and I'm still nursing them to this day. It feels like I'm starting all over, and I'm okay with that. 

III

Then there was the Mac Demarco epiphany. My friend Nyala and went to the sold out 7th Street Entry show earlier this summer. First in line, baby! We both had been fans for a while, vibing with Mac's odd caricature of a personality and dreamy guitar riffs. He seemed so bizarre, watching his VHS style music videos online. A cult singer, who's fan base comprises of chain-smoking hipsters who would probably get his signature tattooed on their ass if given the ample opportunity.

As Nyala and I waited for the doors to open, Mac himself came outside for a smoke (go figure). Suddenly, I got all clammy. I didn't expect to meet him, nor would I have if given a chance (shout out to ANXIETY). He looked so strange, all 3D and such. His gap was... gap-y. He was shorter than I'd imagined, but his clothes were as normcore as I'd imagined. Slowly but surely floppy haired kids surrounded him, trying to casually make conversation. Very sly.

We decided we'd probably kick ourselves if we didn't say 'hi', so slowly but surely we both got up from our spots to talk to the famed Mac DeMarco himself. As we shook hands and began to talk, it dawned on me that I literally had nothing to say to him. Strangely, it wasn't out of anxiety - rather I realized that he was just a normal guy. He is one of those kids that I'd meet at a house party and share a beer with. But I don't know him. I don't know anything about him first hand, yet there we all were, low-key swarming him .... to experience what? 

I couldn't believe how naive I'd been about celebrities, especially musicians like Mac. As we talked about my Menards shirt I felt totally calm. As the gig eventually started, his bro fans went crazy (drunkenly screaming for "Viceroy") and shoved their way to the front of the stage relentlessly. It sort of killed my vibe, actually. 

The Mac DeMarco epiphany will always be a prevalent turning point in how I see things. It's not just a lesson on how we perceive celebrities... it's a lesson on how we see all unattainable things. You know: dreams, careers, projects, etc. Why are we so afraid of them? Maybe if we started to see them as more accessible ambitions/people we wouldn't hold ourselves back as much. Fear. That is the root of it. 

IV

The three photos above have a lot of meaning to me. They all show some kind of growth that I've had in this past year.

1. The first photo is of an oak tree that I'd lie under while skipping my College Algebra class.  During that fall semester I'd spread out my grandmother's crochet blanket and relish the warmth of the sun, the buzz of the new school year. I knew that time would escape quickly in a month or two, when everything would begin to freeze over and become harder, so skipping a class or two (or more) felt okay. What I didn't quite know then was that that fall semester was a major turning point in my life. It was the first time that I felt like I belonged at college, at least spatially. I was just forming the strongest friendships of my life during that time, and if I knew how far I'd come emotionally - I wouldn't have believed it. I'd lay there looking up at the twinkling leaves for hours, listening to Bob Dylan and the American Beauty soundtrack, sincerely enjoying life for what seemed like the first time in a while.

2. The second photo was of my wall tapestry in my dorm room. On it I had pinned numerous photos: Dakota Fanning as Cherie Currie, Rose McGowan, a Run Lola Run still, a crude drawing of Stewart Pickles falling into a time warp whilst making pudding for Angelica at 3 in the morning. I loved waking up to all of these images that I found inspiring for some reason or another. They reminded me of my personal identity, and that I did indeed have one.

3. Lastly, the third photo is of the windowsill in my old bedroom at my parent's house. On it lies a picture of Julian Casablancas, one that used to be taped on the inside of my high school locker. Although most people don't associate positive experiences with high school (I surely didn't), I can start to feel the appreciation sink in. I'm starting to remember old crushes I had, the art room I spent so much of my time in, and the electricity that filled the air when school started and ended.

And I guess that is what I feel now as well: electricity. I can't say what will happen to me on the internet. I still want to continue writing on this blog and posting on Tumblr and Twitter. But for right now, I don't see myself coming back to Youtube anytime soon. And as I'm typing up these words at 3:58 am, let it be known that I am not writing this in a feverish state. These years have shaped me immensely, and I want to thank everyone who has ever sent me a kind message. And thank you right now for reading this sentence. And this one. Thank you to everyone who will continue to follow my pursuits, regardless of me not showing up in your Youtube inbox. I will cherish all of our moments, and this will not be the last of me.

-Lauren Rose
Curbside Fashion

Film Muse: Dirty Girls

This one was a long time coming. 

For those who are new to this blog - HEY-O! This Film Muse post is going to be about a short film that I discovered about a year ago. It's called Dirty Girls by Michael Lucid. See it HERE. 

Like most magical things that are regurgitated into this world, I found this bad boy on Tumblr. Circa 1996, the short documentary showcases the lives of an alternative "riot grrrl" group of 8th grade girls. It also documents the local high schoolers' opinions of them.  

**WARNING: people were extra mean in the '90s (???)**

 I liked this film a lot. A LOT A LOT. I know I always talk about how contrived '90s nostalgia is (and bask in it), but for some reason this film makes me truly reminiscent of something I have actually experienced. I think it has to do with the low-fi analog camera they used to film. It was like I was watching my old home videos - that actually weren't mine. Here's a story for you: during my first film class in high school (2009) I remember my teacher showed us some videos that her former students made. She rolled out this massive TV (which is probably in some landfill now) and popped in a VHS tape. We watched this horrible student film from 1994 which involved someone being kidnapped and thrown in a car trunk.  As I watched - something CRAZY happened. What did I see as the criminal escaped down the city streets? MY HOUSE. THEY WERE FILMING IN MY NEIGHBORHOOD. I was probably crying in my crib when they filmed that shot. Everything looked so different yet so familiar. It was weird, seeing my house from someone else's perspective. Tangent? A bit. But with all of that said, it reminds me of something my teacher would have played for us in film class. 

 I remember these high school girls from the video. They were my 16 year old childhood babysitter, Becca.  Becca was like them in so many ways, the clothes, the dark lipstick, the was she talked, even the way she thought. So when I see Becca in my mind - cool older babysitter - and compare them to the Dirty Girls, I immediately feel the opposition and oppression. These girls were the anti-consumerists of the late 90's materialistic culture, and they weren't afraid to show it. 

 ( ^^^ this girl has it figured out ^^^)

You have Amber - head bitch. I really liked Amber. She is someone who I would have wanted to be friends with. The thing about Amber is that although she advocates for women's rights and calls out societies standards - she keeps her cool. Ice cold. She has this air of mystery and composure (even while eating a dirty Life Saver off the ground to fulfill her reputation *high fives via time machine*). Her fellow Dirty Girls on the other hand are a bit haphazard, loud, and relish in the backlash (NOT a bad thing of course, just interesting in comparison) .   

("My housekeeper gave me this shirt!")

Like everything in this world, this film isn't so black and white ( >>right vs wrong). Although the Dirty Girls slam down males' expectations of women and why women shouldn't be subjected to them, they also slut shame and continue to separate themselves from the "preppies". To be fair,  I remember this mentality too, feeling the "us against the world" vibe permanently pump you up but also bum you out. The last thing you want to do is have to explain yourself to those who make your life hell.  That's why this documentary is such an AMAZING piece of history. It shows the true emotions and actions of REAL people, not perfect feminists or accepting high schoolers.  

(The Doom Generation, F-YEAH!)

I loved the zines they made. It sort of makes me want to do a secret one on campus and ambush it everywhere like Courtney does to Fern Mayo's "before" picture in Jawbreaker. Well, I guess it wont be  a secret if I just told you, but whatever. The most heart wrenching part of this film was watching everyone at the high school make fun of the Dirty Girl's zines, mockingly reading their poetry out loud and huddling around like a pack of hyenas ready to rip it to shreds. The only person that doesn't put it down is a nameless '90s cutie. *swoons*

I went to Michael's Youtube page to see if a full follow up documentary was in the works. I did find a interview with present day Harper  (HERE), but nothing of the former.  It was cool to see her - like an old friend. This is what she said in part of the interview: 

At the end of the school year in '96, the long version of Dirty Girls was shown to the whole school, anyone was invited to view it, and I remember at least one in particular upperclassman that approached us and apologized for what she had said. And that was a BIG DEAL. And a lot of people felt like they understood what we were doing at our core, and so even back then in high school we got some positive reactions from that Dirty Girls video. To have people who'd otherwise would have looked twice at you or would just judge you from a distance be like "that's really cool, I really like what you were saying", I mean that was exactly what we- we couldn't of asked for anything better. 

Punk rock. Even shitty people sometimes try to make things right. Also, let's give a shout out to Michael for sharing this gem with us for free on Youtube. You are awesome. With that good vibe I will leave you to your friday night. Have a good one.

Lauren Rose

Curbside Fashion  

Fashion Fantasy Land- Romance Was Born RTW S/S 2013/14

(All photos above from Vogue) 

I must admit, I usually don't lust over fashion shows these days.  Not to say that there isn't great work out there, but my problem with certain collections is that if you don't vibe with the designer's inspiration, you're not going to like a single outfit in the entire show.  But alas, every now and then I can't help but praise those who seem to just embody my brain.

(Photo from Style Bubble)

Cue Anna Plunkett and Luke Sales, the designers behind Romance Was Born.  This specific collection (RTW S/S 2013/14) particularly blew me away. The things that stuck out for me the most were the phosphorescent colors, mod 60s/70s silhouettes, small and repeated details, and the fluid movements.  I heard that the outfits are supposed to be reminiscent of the Disney princesses (since Disney sponsored the show). I mainly picked up on the Alice In Wonderland reference, the last blue outfit reminding me of the caterpillar's smoke rings. I also enjoyed the shoes which were haloed in a tulle material which immediately reminded me of fish gills underwater. The playfulness of what looked like revamped '70s nightgowns accompanied by flowy textured bell bottoms ultimately sold me.  The Japanese style pastel goth hair/ makeup didn't hurt either. 

 (Photo by Karen Roe)

 (Photo by Karen Roe)

(Photo from Style Bubble)

On a different note, I loved the runway design by Tanya Shultz. Apparently it was inspired by "xylophone covers of The Smiths and Smashing Pumpkins"(Vine) - very rad. It makes me miss seeing/making installation works. The amount of detail and phosphorescent colors blended magnificently in with the collection.  It reminded me of the film Fantastic Planet for some reason. The surreal aspect, the organic shapes and mounds, the sparkly crystals, etc. 

(Fantastic Planet stills)

Anyways, that's my inspiration of the day. Hope you liked it as much as I did.

Much Love, 

Lauren Rose

Curbside Fashion